“I’ve spent most of my life and most of my friendships holding my breath and hoping that when people get close enough they won’t leave, and fearing that it’s a matter of time before they figure me out and go.”—Shauna Niequist (via misswallflower)
“And from that day forward, women embraced their diversity and realized that all shapes and sizes are beautiful. Ah ha ha. No. I’m totally messing with you. All Beyonce and JLo have done is add to the laundry list of attributes women must have to qualify as beautiful. Now every girl is expected to have Caucasian blue eyes, full Spanish lips, a classic button nose, hairless Asian skin with a California tan, a Jamaican dance hall ass, long Swedish legs, small Japanese feet, the abs of a lesbian gym owner, the hips of a nine-year-old boy, the arms of Michelle Obama, and doll tits. The person closest to actually achieving this look is Kim Kardashian, who, as we know, was made by Russian scientists to sabotage our athletes.”—
I ran across this and found it interesting (though I knew a good portion of the history since I remember learning about this as a kid in Mexico). I think the title should say Mexican and Black American Solidarity, though. As per usual, I will mention that Black people and…
“Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something, and that this thing, at whatever cost, must be attained.”—Marie Curie (via hornblower24601)
Today’s the 9th anniversary of the day I planned to commit suicide.
As hard as some aspects of my life are right now, when I was driving around today I realized I’m so much stronger than I think I am. I hadn’t taken the time to recognize how much I’ve changed. Nine years ago I couldn’t imagine a future, I couldn’t hope, I was afraid of people and I hated myself.
Now, while staring down some of the same issues I was nine years ago, I can finally see how much I’ve changed. And maybe that’s why I’m in this situation right now, so I can take some perspective and recognize the strength inside of me. Maybe to just know even when things were at their absolute bleakest, I surrendered and put my faith blindly into a future with no guarantees.
And yet I’ve made it. Made it in ways I wouldn’t allow myself to think were possible.
Living each of these three thousand two hundred and eight five days is an accomplishment in and of itself. Life is really hard, there is no getting around that. Things can change though, even if you can’t see around the bend, there are still options and choices that will come your way that will change everything. There are people who will profoundly disappoint you and there will be people who are so amazing you wonder what you did to deserve them in your life. There is a balance in this chaos, I promise. And there are always, always, always places you can go to get help.
There’s a lot about this world I still don’t understand and a lot this world doesn’t understand about me. I’ve finally given myself permission to be okay with that.
I’m really disappointed that where I went for the support group tonight was not the right location. I should have called or emailed beforehand to make sure the website information was still up to date :/
There is an ancient and well-kept secret to happiness which the Great Ones have known for centuries. They rarely talk about it, but they use it all the time, and it is fundamental to good mental health. This secret is called The Fine Art of Not Being Offended. In order to truly be a master of…
Thanks to the person who sent me this on emotionalbaggagecheck.com
I know it’s hard, but there are so many people who love you and are there for you. You may not see it now, but I promise, YOU AREN’T ALONE. I had a similar situation in middle school and high school. I had a friend that wasn’t being a good friend to me. I just gradually stopped hanging around her and started talking to other people. I made two friends that year. I’ve been friends with them for nearly ten years now. If it’s hard to be around her try gradually putting distance between the two of you. Try finding people who make you feel good about yourself. Making new friends can be hard and a little scary, but it’s so worth it. Don’t waste your time with people who aren’t worth your time. You’re going to be just fine, sweetie. You are an amazing person and you’ll get through this hard time. Be strong. You are so special! Don’t forget that!
“Caring about women doesn’t make me a man-hater. Caring about the rights and welfare of minorities doesn’t mean I don’t care about the rights and welfare of the majority. Caring about immigrants doesn’t mean I don’t care about citizens already here. Caring about the underprivileged doesn’t mean I hate the privileged.”—(via thehumorlessfeminist)
“1. How many years do you consider to be a fair prison term for a woman who has an abortion?
2. How many years for a doctor who performs one?
3. Will the punishments be greater the second time around? 4. Where will the state get the money necessary to prosecute one-third of all American women for this crime?
5. Forty-two percent of women who have an abortion have incomes below 100 percent of the federal poverty level (that’s $10,830 for a single woman with no children, if you’re counting). When women are forced to have children they cannot afford to raise, will those children become wards of the state or simply new Medicaid recipients? Where will the state find the money necessary to support them?
6. Will you be willing to watch your wife die in front of you when her life is threatened by an unsafe pregnancy that no one is allowed to do anything about? Your daughter?
7. Will rapists have to pay child support to women who are forced to have their children?
8. Will the child of incest be in the custody of its rapist father or the father’s teenaged daughter, his mother? In fact, 18 percent of women who have an abortion in America are teenagers. Will they be required to drop out of high school to raise their children or will the state provide free childcare?
9. Will upper-class white women be prosecuted as vigorously as other women who have abortions?
10. You are aware that upper-class white women have abortions, aren’t you?”—10 Questions for Anti-Choice Candidates : Ms Magazine Blog (via tryingtofollow)